2005-04-16
As a society we seem to place a great deal of importance to that defines gender. And despite all that has happened to change the vision of just two genders. The definition still, for the most part, remains female or male. There is no and/or/neither category. American's are quick to tell everyone that will listen that this country is built on freedom of choice. What these patriotic mouthpieces will not tell you is that freedom of choice lies between societal accepted rules and norms.

 

It would seem that every single one of us has the freedom to choice most anything, while none of us has the power to have forgotten the social constructions of being a certain gender. We are either boy or girl—male or female—transvestite or homosexual. Why should we care? After all, we all know that what people see on the surface never matches what the individual is made of.

 

It is my belief that we all have divided and unique paths in life. No adventure, like the women who experience them  are the same. But yet in some aspects of life we are lumped together. In most cases it is automatically assumed that since we are female that we must want children. "After all," they asked. "Isn't having children the most natural thing in the world?" To this I always reply, "It depends on who you are talking to."  For me, having children is equivalent to becoming the next American Idol.  It just ain't gonna happen. At least not in the next ten to fifteen years, but even then I'm betting that I'll become an American Idol before I become a mother.

 

The lack of respect for the female gender, although waning, has been in play in the United States for a very long time. Although women are making progress this school of thought is far from diminished. It will take many lifetimes to turn this paradigm around. The realities are that there are distinct social and genetic barriers that every woman will come against in the battle for equality.

 

That is simply reality.